Making the First Move in a Conversation

How you present your self in a date is not just on the looks and the moves, but also on how you talk. A good conversationalist presents his or her personality and intelligence towards the date. However, starting a conversation with someone you have just met is not always easy. Here's our guide to making contact and some tips on taking things further.

People like to be flattered – Try to pick something unique about them and bring it up in the conversation. This would grab their interest and give them something to talk about when they reply. For instance, “I see that you have a great taste for Italian wine. I love wine. Do you know that they have a good selection of wine here?”

Make the person laugh – Whether in the pub or online, humor is a great icebreaker. Use it to bring a smile to their face and let them know that you are fun to be with.

Be interested – Listen to what the other person says about himself or herself, barging in to prevent your date to talk too much. This also applies to you, as you are not supposed to rattle about yourself too much.

Give compliments – Do not be afraid to use compliments to win over your potential mate. However, do not overdo it as too much is not good.

Plan the next step – If you decide that you want to take things further, it's time to ask for a phone number. Remember to keep safety in mind. If the person doesn't feel comfortable giving you his or her pone number, you could suggest giving yours.