A Letter to an Ex-GF

Given below is a scanned copy of a letter written by a guy to his Ex-gf in a district of India, as published in a local newspaper. I wonder where they found it from. Since its written and published in Hindi, i tried translating it for our English readers, but had to give up after the first few lines. Those who can read it, its a treat for them; a bad luck for them who cant.

Love Quotes/I Miss You Quotes (Part 1)

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Questions To Ask Before Marriage

Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking:

1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?

11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

12) What does my family do that annoys you?

13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?

15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

Common Sex Myths

Myths about sex are prevalent in our society. They occur because people pass off partial information as fact. Or, just as often, they have no information and invent sexual facts using common sense or fantasy sense. The facts get mixed-up because “experts” often change their minds or can’t actually agree, or when they come up with new theories every week, telling us that the theories they introduced last week are actually wrong. A lot of these sex myths seem to be logical, but it is logic that fools us.

Period sex is safe sex – The popular belief is that if a couple has sex during the female’s menstruation period, she can’t get pregnant, since the period disposes off the woman’s egg and the next one is far away. However, this myth is false because the sperm can survive in the vagina for up to seven days, and an egg can survive for three. If the woman has irregular periods and ovulates closer to her period, the egg and sperm transit times get crossed. In a normal 28-day cycle, ovulation occurs two weeks before the next period. So, unless the couple knows the woman’s cycle very intimately, they should not play with fire.

Withdrawal contraception works – It is reasonable to assume that if no sperm is deposited in the female, she won’t get pregnant. However, all men have some pre-ejaculation fluid, which contains little live sperm that will wiggle their way up to the egg to fertilize it without too much trouble at all. This happens whether or not you pull out before you ejaculate.

Homosexual fantasies make one gay or bisexual – Our society is still fairly homophobic. Because it is reasonably new thing to have to deal with, it can be very confusing for people to have homosexual fantasies. In reality, we all fantasize about playing around with another man or woman does not make you gay; it actually makes you curious. Acting on fantasies is different than just having them and only you will know the real story. Homosexual fantasies aren’t really talked about for fear of being labeled as gay, and that is not about to change. If you are unsure of your sexual orientation, speak to a professional counselor or sex therapist.

Penis size matters – Everyone always goes on about big penises and how great they are. A big tool is a sign of manliness. If a man has one, he is undoubtedly the envy of any man with a penis that is even slightly smaller. However, sex does not only involve the penis. Every man should take time to learn to figure out how to work their penises and the rest of their body to the best orgasmic advantage. A couple could use different positions to make love and have a greater chance of hitting the right spots. The clitoris, G-spot, and entrance to the vagina are a woman’s hot spots, but do not forget that some women do not orgasm by penetration alone. Also, a really huge penis can be very painful for women because it hits the cervix. The best way for men to ensure a woman’s sexual satisfaction is to get really good at other things, like oral sex and using your hands.

Women always need tons of foreplay – Since the sexual revolution, men have been criticized for not giving their lovers enough warm-up time. But sometimes, when having spontaneous sex, it is totally acceptable to just get right into it. Also, some women need very little foreplay and they should tell their man whether they need more of it or less of it.

Women want multiple orgasms – The rise of the sexual revolution perpetuated the belief that sex is all about the satisfaction of women after so many years of the opposite. But just because women can have more than one orgasm doesn’t mean they want more than one. One is usually fine; two may be great, but any more than that could push the boundaries of wear and tear, and boredom as well. Unless the woman wants it and asks for more, after one or two, she probably feels kind of like men do after they finish: tired.

Orgasms are the be all and end all of good sex – We are trained to believe that the point of having sex is to have an orgasm. The orgasm is often the first question that gets asked when someone relates a sexual experience to a friend. In reality, good sex is good because both people have a great time, not because both are totally physically spent by amazing orgasms. Having a mind-blowing orgasm can be great, but they do not define fabulous sex. If any one misses out on the orgasm it is usually the woman, which is bad news if the man makes a habit out of it, but not essential for a good session. Women do not enjoy fake orgasms. Of course they want real ones, but they also want you to know that sex can be good without them—sometimes.

Men can’t have an orgasm without ejaculating – Men are just as capable as women are of having multiple orgasms even without ejaculation. It’s just that it is more difficult to attain it. There are a couple of methods: One is by effectively blocking the ejaculation fluid from escaping by holding the base of the penis just before ejaculation. The other is by erotic prostate massage. An orgasm from massaging the prostate is far more intense than a normal orgasm, and is felt throughout the entire body. The best way to experiment with prostate massage is to buy a specially-made sex toy.

Men don’t have a G-Spot – Both men and women have their own G-spots. In the case of men, the G-spot is actually the prostate gland. Unfortunately, it is a little more difficult to access than a woman’s because it can only be reached through the anus. A finger is inserted in the anus, making its way to the direction to the man’s bellybutton, until it feels a lump about the size of a nut. Stimulating the prostate in this way is also very healthy because it floods the prostate with fresh blood that contains plenty of oxygen and nutrients. If you have sexual dysfunction or prostate problems, this procedure can really help.

Ejaculation affects athletic performance – It is an old Eastern philosophy that ejaculating drains the male body of its “life force,” bringing down its testosterone levels. This “life force” gives men energy, and testosterone gives them more aggression. The myth pertains to logic, but the reason you feel sleepy after ejaculation is because of the chemicals that are triggered during the ejaculation process are sleep inducing. Regarding the lowered testosterone levels; scientific studies have found that having sex actually increases testosterone levels. In fact, three months of abstaining makes a man’s testosterone levels drop to that of a child’s, which does not bode well for the increased aggressing or energy necessary for the edge in some sports. Overall, if you want to do it, go for it. If you find it affects your performance, just don’t do it the next time.

Smaller breasts are more sensitive – There is a scientific fact that on average, human breasts receive the same amount of sensory neurons regardless of their size. The logical conclusion would be that, due to its density, smaller breasts are more sensitive to touch. The truth is, breast—particularly the nipple—are sensitive the majority of the time for most women. The sensitivity of the breast morphs throughout her cycle: at some points her breasts will be larger or smaller, tender, sometimes painful, and sometimes more sexually sensitive.

Men are always ready for sex – Socially, men are the demons of sex. They always want it, they never get enough, and they are always ready for it just in case some willing female happens to jump upon their path. But this myth neglects the part that men are human beings and aren’t always in the mood. Further more, men don’t always want to be in the mood. There are many reasons for men not want to have sex, including stress, illness, fatigue, and just not being in the mood. Men should not be afraid to say no sometimes, but they should make sure that they explain to their women because they will be confused. After all, women probably think that men are always ready for sex, aren’t they?

Clearing the Myths about Masturbation

Through the years, sexual awareness is one aspect of human life that has been repressed by mainstream society, making it seem that sex is an evil deed when it is not. After all, sex between a man and a woman creates life, right? Such awareness begins with the development of the reproductive organs during adolescence, and one activity that people do is to masturbate their organs to cause sexual sensations.

Masturbation is all about manipulating his or her genitals to the point of intense pleasure or orgasm. Although this can involve with another person, most of us think of masturbation as a very private act.

Masturbation allows a healthy way to express and explore one’s sexuality and to release sexual tension without all the associated risks of sexual intercourse such as pregnancy and STDs. It is a natural and normal mode of self-exploration and sexual expression. Ironically, after all the excitement of the moment has passed, many people find themselves filled with guilt and shame, thanks to the negative association with all kinds of sex.

But are those negative myths linked about masturbation true after all? Let’s all discuss it.

Masturbation is not real sex – People who masturbate tend to function better sexually when with a partner since they know their own body and have fulfilled sexual expression.

Only “losers” masturbate – Masturbation is a normal human activity, and it is not only done by “losers”. Jocks do it, so do cheerleaders, and—probably—even your parents.

Masturbation causes blindness, baldness, acne, hair on your hands, basically a lot of physical changes – None of these have any basis. Twisted views on masturbation passed on through generations did nothing but to deprive people of releasing their sexual tension. Why not blame those physical changes to aging?

People in relationships or married do not masturbate – Many couples masturbate mutually as an alternative to sexual intercourse. Remember that intercourse is not the only way to express sex.

Masturbation will stunt your growth – Stimulating your reproductive system has nothing to do with your growth hormones that are being developed in your pituitary gland (which is near your brain). If you want to grow, try sleeping more hours at night, since growth hormones (especially when young) only work when asleep. Or better yet, consult your doctor.

Masturbation causes sterility – This myth is commonly associated with men. Your healthy testicles will never run out of semen and sperm. If you release some semen after masturbation, your reproductive system just makes another batch of it.

Masturbation can be hurtful – Not necessarily, but your genitals would hurt if you masturbate too often. Getting irritated skin is normal unless you use plenty of water soluble lubrication next time.

Masturbation is sinful – That is something you will have to decide for yourself. But, when done in moderation—and not interfering with your school work, your job, or the rest of your life—masturbation seems to be a common, normal, and healthy way to get sexual satisfaction.

Not masturbating makes you healthier– Try not masturbating for a few months and notice some considerable changes in your body, such as irritability, difficulty concentrating, insomnia, and wet dreams.

Masturbating does nothing to the body – On the contrary, there are several benefits in masturbating. For one, it relieves menstrual cramps among women. On young men, it reduces embarrassing spontaneous erections, as well as the number of unwanted wet dreams. It also helps you battle with insomnia, stimulate the immune system, release mood-elevating hormones.

Improving Your Sex Drive

Kicking your sex life to a higher notch not only would do wonders to your partner, but also improves your health. As they say, a healthy body makes a healthy sex drive. Here are some great tips that you should follow.

Consider circulation-enhancing dishes – Foods that are high in Omega-3 fatty acids like mackerel, salmon, and wild salmon, make your nervous system function better, which in turn contributes to good circulation. Another good food to improve circulation is chilies, which also stimulates the nervous system. A healthy blood flow means that your genital area receives fresh blood that improve sexual ability and pleasure.

Go for granola – Improved circulation also means greater erectile response. To accomplish that, go for foods rich in L-Arginine like granola, oatmeal, peanuts, cashews, walnuts, dairy, green vegetables, root vegetables, garlic, ginseng, soybeans, chickpeas, and seeds. L-Arginine is helpful for improving sexual functions in men. Although there weren't studies yet connecting L-Arginine and women, remember that erectile response is not exclusive to guys as they have erections too in their clitoris and the tissue surrounding the vulva.

Try soy – Soy binds estrogen receptors, which helps the vaginal area remain lubricated and combats symptoms of menopause. It is also beneficial to the prostate, a crucial male sex organ. However, it's important to note that women who have a history of breast cancer should not eat large amounts of soy because it increases the risk of reoccurence.

Reduce weight – Foods that promote weight loss also has libido-boosting potential. Obese men tend to have erectile dysfunction and low testosterone. Reducing weight, in turn, results in an increase of testosterone, and thus an increase in sexual function.

Have the right amount of fat – Too much is bad for you, as well as too little fat because you need it to produce your hormones. Cholesterol is metabolized in the liver and you get your testosterone and estrogen, which you need for your sex drive. Monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats are the “good kind” of fats that your body needs. Olive oil, salmon, and nuts are optimal sources.

Avoiding stress – Medical and hormonal problems are major contributors to sexual dysfunction and low libido, as well as too much stress, relationship difficulties, and psychological issue. Antidepressants like Prozac can negatively affect sex drive as well.

Do some cardio endurance – Shoot for 3 to 4 days of cardio execise like running, walking, swimming.

Muscular endurance – Conditioning your body can be a plus for longer lasting sex. For endurance, you will need to lift lighter weights for more repetitions.

Muscular strength – Your muscles will be contracting no matter what sexual position you are in, so it pays to shape to avoid nasty leg or foot cramps. To achieve this, lift heavier weights for few repetitions.

Flexibility – This can enhance anyone's sex life by making it a bit easier to get in your favorite position with a minimum amount of fuss. Try a little Yoga or some stretches to get you in the mood.

Dealing your Sexuality While in Abstinence

People can have sexual urges and feelings while keeping their abstinence. We make choices about our behaviors to be abstinent or sexually active, and can still acknowledge, experience, and enjoy their sexuality. Remember that sexual thoughts, feelings, emotions, and desires are natural and a healthy part of sexual development.

Abstinence is viewed either as not having any type of sexual experience; or not having oral, vaginal, or vaginal sex; or not allowing penetration but accepting oral sex.

If you acknowledge these feeling but choose not to have any kind of sexual contact, you can redirect this sexual energy into other activities with or without a partner such as:

· dancing or exercising
· shopping or even window shopping
· reading a book
· watching a movie
· meditating
· taking a shower
· being with friends
· having a picnic in the park
· strolling on the beach
· playing video games
· giving or receiving hugs
· holding hands with someone you care about
· cooking dinner
· dining by candlelight

Aside from these, those who decide on getting physically intimate with a partner without having oral, anal, or vaginal sex can do the following:

· giving or receiving soft , sensuous, or deep passionate kisses
· enjoying a back rub or full body massage
· cuddling, caressing, or stroking each other with or without clothes on
· slowly and sensuously undressing one another
· touching one's self in front of a partner, with or without touching him or her, with or without orgasm
· skinny dipping in a pool or pond
· taking a shower or bathing together

There are many reasons for a person to become abstinent, including religious or cultural views as well as personal or family values. Some are abstinent because they are simply not ready to have sex. It is important to think about what abstinence means to you, and then to live by that belief.

Seduction Guide: Make Yourself Attractive

Being attractive does not only come from the surface, but also from within. That inner confidence is what attracts people—no matter what clothes you wear or education you have attained—and you can develop your positivity by doing the following tips.

Be relaxed – Do not stress yourself. People with a relaxed demeanor have loads of spare mental capacity to make jokes, ask questions, smile, and generally be a pleasant person to be around.

Be giving – Work on becoming someone who focuses on giving to others. You can either do volunteer work or donate to charity, even both. This would naturally result in others wanting to be around you.

Be positive – No one like to be around a negative person. Attractive people have a tendency to always see the positive in just about everything. Make the best out of any situation and focus on finding solutions instead of complaining about the problem.

Be caring, both to yourself and others – Attractive people understand that if they do not take care of themselves, they won't have anything to give to other people.

Should You Go Back to Your Ex?

One day, you received a call from your ex and he or she asks you to go out. Apparently, your ex misses you and wants you back. It may be so sudden, but you need to think quick in order to resolve this issue.
Do not be too emotional about it – It is easy to remember all of the good times and totally forget about all of the bad things because you have an emotional void that you need to fill. Don't be blind and don't trust too soon. Besides, perhaps your ex wanted you back as a friend.

Evaluate your reality check – Do you have a reason to believe that thing will be completely different if the two of you decide to to get back together? Relationships can easily be compared to a plate: Once it's broken, it's hard to put it back together.

See if both of you can compromise more – Meeting halfway is a common problem in relationships, as sometime either the two of you wanting to do things his or her way. If you would remain unbending to your ex, then why should you become lovers again?

Follow your gut feel – If you have any doubts about getting back with your ex, then you probably should not.

Rememer the reason it didn't work out the first time – People rarely change. Getting back together might just make you upset a second time. Think back about the issues that you have had. Would they reoccur? Would you handle them differently?

Don't let your ex manipulate you by making promises – “I promise I'd change” is probably overused by exes. Remember to keep your cool and your emotions intact when dealing with your ex.

Get back with your ex for the right decisions – Remember that if you're thinking of getting back together just to fill the lonely time or because you are scare to stay single, you'll reduce the chances of you ever attracting someone who is perfect for you.

Heating up the Romance

Tired of the same routine? Have you forgotten the last time you were with your spouse alone? Thinking of spicing up the romance? It looks like the perfect time for you and the hubby to have a romantic getaway together. Even with the kids underfoot and your jobs and chores threatening to overtake you, there is still time for a romantic night with just you and your husband. Your marriage doesn't have to take a backseat to your daily responsibilities. A happy marriage requires some time together. Just because you are married doesn't mean that the romance has to fizzle. Here are some tips to make date night magical, even if it is only for one night a week.

Plan your date. The rules for dating still count. Having a plan for your date will make it a success. If you are going on a picnic plan on where you will leave your kids. Make dinner reservations at your restaurant.

Create the mood. If you have babies and can't leave the house, there are still ways to create that romantic setting. Set up your dinner in front of the fireplace. Set some candles in your bedroom and have dinner there.

Get out of the house. Let's face having your date night at home doesn't make it much of a date. Being at home will remind you of the kids and other matters when you should be concentrating on your spouse.

No entertainment that requires you to face the same direction. Talking and being together is the main purpose of date night. You are each other's entertainment for the evening. Just be together. If you are going to watch a movie or a play make sure you talk to each other over dinner about it.

Don't bring the entire family. Why go out at all if you're just bringing the kids along? Date night is just for you and your spouse. Don't attend anything social.

Schedule an entire night. Tell your babysitter or your oldest child that you'll be gone an entire evening.

Dress the part. It might help the mood if you dress up for date night. You'll be able to surprise your hubby and you'll feel good about getting out of your sweats for an evening.

Play your song. This may sound overly cheesy but request the band to play your song. If your husband doesn't remember it anymore, why don't you remind him?

Eliminate any distractions. Don't bring your cell phones. Don't even think of turning on the television or answering the door.

Be creative. Instead of doing the usual dinner out why not try something new? Go boating or go to the local fair. Take a nature hike. Just focus on each other.

Date night can help transform your marriage but only if you are both in the spirit of it. Try to connect with your spouse. Make date night a weekly ritual. Date night might lead to more interesting things later on.

How to Break Up

Breaking up is rarely easy. You both have feelings for each other at one point, and maybe you still do. And when it's time to end the relationship, sometimes things get out of hand. The key is to do it maturely, without deliberate pain, in order for both of you move on with your lives and find someone better suited for each other.
Acknowledge that the relationship is really over – Come to terms with your own feeling and make a firm decision to end the relationship.

Be honest – Although break-ups can be really hard on relationships, honesty salvages any possible future friendships.

Do not delay the inevitable – Once you decide to break up with your partner, think immediately on how, when, and where you will take action. Do not drag out a pointless relationship.

Select a private place – Breaking up is not a public affair. A secluded area in the park or your partner's house can do. Find or schedule an appropriate time to meet and be alone with your partner as you tell him or her the bad news.

Never break up on the phone – Not only it is rude, it also gives an impression that you took the relationship for granted.

Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational – Never break up right after an argument (you might regret it later on). Also, announcing a break up in heated moments would just make the fighting worse.

Deliver the news personally – Tell your partner that you feel that this relationship on its current level needs to end.

Be firm and decisive – Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Remember to be tactful, not brutal.

Be grateful of your partner – Remind him or her that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.

Give your partner closure – He or she needs to accept the break-up. Answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends. Stay positive as you both make plans to go your separate ways.

More often than not, breaking up is as hard on the person ending the relationship as it is on the person being broken up with. Don't assume just because a person is breaking up with you means that they no longer care about you. Remember that caring about the person is different from wanting a relationship with the person.

How to Tell Someone I Love You

Telling someone you love them can be both the hardest and the easiest thing to say. Basically, to truly let someone see that you love them you simply need to make them feel loved. And if you really do love them, doing this should come naturally.

Plan the day - Think about when and where you want to tell her. Is there a special place you want to be? A certain day? Do you want to plan something special or just something simple.

Prepare yourself - Set your mood and be romantic. Buy her flowers or a romantic gift. Prepare a dinner with candles or a picnic with a bottle of wine.

Open your feelings - Tell your partner how you feel being with them, and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you really appreciate about being with them.

Look directly your partner - take your partner hand and tell them how positive you feel about them. Tell them what are the things you really like. Be honest and sincere.

Be prepared to your partner answer - Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for your partner response if you are not sure it feels the same way about you.

Make your partner feel special - You can show your partner that you love them by simple things like spend quality time together, cuddle in bed at night and talk together. You can also send a sweet card or email to your partner during the day.

How To Improve Your Love Relationship

What's the key to successful relationships? A couple relationships may be the most important in your life. It is often the main relationship in people's lives; it is the basis of a family and this is the place where most of us learn about love, commitment, communication, negotiation and compromise.

Quality time - Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Try to have one evening out per week, just the two of you. If you have children this is more difficult to arrange – but it’s not impossible. And do try when you have this ‘date’ to avoid talking about your offspring or your work.

Security - A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.

Independence - Keep your dependence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don't strangle them, because you will make your partner feel trapped.

Communication – Women should explain, early in your relationship, exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm. Same thing for men, you should explain early in your relationship what do you prefer and how would you like your partner do it.

Support - Encourage your partner to listen to you, by showing appreciation when it does. Remember that most men aren't mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.

Do not control - When conflict occurs, you should open to learning about yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issues of the conflict. Don’t try to win, or at least not lose, through some form of controlling behavior. When you try to control you create even more conflict.

Take care of yourself - It’s very sad that couples often stop making an effort with how they look. A small thing can transform a routine into more of an occasion.

Knowing If the Relationship is Over

Sometimes it is hard to tell if the relationship is really over. You have to make sure that you want to end the relationship because the person is not compatible to you after all, not because you are afraid of commitment. There are signs to help you understand where you should stand. If these signs are not obvious to you, check out some of the hints we have listed.
The relationship has become one-sided – A couple should compromise each other. If you feel as if you're doing all the work in the relationship, it's time to talk on amending it or break up.

The chemistry is gone – The two of you have become out-of-sync. Your conversations are not that alive as it used to be and the intimacy just doesn't feel the same.

Your partner prefers to hang out with others – You've used to the times when you dine together or having good time together, but if he or she is starting to enjoy the company of his or her friends more—or worse, with other singles—then your relationship has a problem.

The feeling of longing is gone – Do you find yourself feeling relieved whenever you part company?

You don't feel accepted and appreciated by your partner – Your partner begins to complain about things you do or quarrels with you for no apparent reason.

Your partner has become overly emotional – Your partner still loves you, but he or she has become jealous, obsessive, and even possessive about you. If you notice this, consider the extra burden you would carry in dealing with those behaviors in the coming months.

Your partner has hurt you – Any form of physical and emotional abuse is an absolute sign that you should break the relationship.

Ending a relationship is never easy, regardless of whose fault it is. If you loved your partner with all your heart and soul, it can be devastating to see him or her go. However, if you suspect that the romance has reached a dead end, do not hesitate to speak up.

Once separated, you need all the support you can get from your family and friends. Don't be afraid to cry, and don't be afraid to fall in love again either.

Reawaken Your Passion

Relationships tend to lose passion as it goes on, and you may need to make a conscious effort to re-ignite the spark in your bond and reawaken the passion for each other. It may take elaborate plans and gestures, and sometimes it may be small, seemingly insignificant things that can help you ignite your passion anew.

Plan a romantic getaway – A trip to a spa or a romantic destination can help put the passion back in your relationship. This type of trip gives the couple an opportunity to step away from their everyday lives and spend some time focusing on romance.

Treat your partner with respect – Sometimes people get in the habit of taking their partner for granted while they continue to treat complete strangers and casual acquaintances with respect. Make an effort to impress your partner to help revive the passion.

Do something new and adventurous – Try an activity that you have never done before like skydiving or surfing. Participating in an adventurous sport can make you feel more alive, transcending into your relationship.

Hold hands – This simple act draws you and your partner closer together. Most couple hold hands all the time early in their relationship, but as time goes by they begin to do so less and less often. Grab your partner's hand and hold on while you run errands can make your partner feel desired again.

Plan date nights – Spend some time getting dressed-up and plan a night out on the town. Putting this level of effort into a dinner date makes it feel much more special and romantic, plus it gives you a chance to let your partner know that you are still interested in spending time with them. No matter how busy your week is, plan to have at least one night a week where the two of you connect in a special way, even if it's just some quiet time at home after the kids go to bed or even a family game night with the kids.

Take care in you own appearance – If you feel good about yourself, you will be more appealing to your partner. Spend a few extra minutes getting ready to go out and really pamper yourself. This will give you a confidence boost in your relationship.

Compliment your partner – Noticing when your partner puts extra effort into their appearance lets them know that you still find them desirable and attractive.

Plan trips you would like to take – Spend an afternoon thinking of trips you would like to take together and make a list of all the places you want to go and all the things you want to do.

Spend some quiet time together everyday – Plan on having at least a few minute alone with your partner each day to help put the spark back into your relationship. Take time to reconnect with your partner.

Take a bath together – This is a very sensual activity that makes you both feel pampered and gives you the opportunity to reconnect on a physical level. Beyond that it can also give you a chance to relax and unwind after a hard day of work and sometimes it's the stresses of everyday life that are putting a damper on passion.

Making Long-Distance Relationships Last

Long-distance relationships share the same facts as an average relationship. It involves two people who share an interest in each other's lives, care for one another, and of course have a mutual love for each other that they hope will only continue to grow. A long distance relationship has just as much chance as succeeding as any other relationship. All it takes is to follow these steps.
Make an agreement – Set parameters on what both of you expect in the relationship and how much of a commitment you are willing to give and receive. Be clear about what you both want is extremely important to prevent future misunderstandings and mistakes.

Keep in touch daily – Long distance relationships should not follow the motto “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” Just like in regular relationships, constant communication is needed to keep your interests towards each other alive. If large phone bills are a concern, try sending e-mails. Pay attention to how many times a week you are staying in touch as well.

Plan your reunions – Seeing each other once in a while plays a big part in keeping your relationship exciting, plus it serves you the satisfaction of being able to see and touch each other occasionally. It gives you the opportunity to catch up on each other's lives in person and to be able to share physical and intimate activities together, which will fulfill both of your needs and desires.

Reaffirm your love and commitment to one another – Try not to assume that the relationship is thriving. Listen to your partner's concerns and communicate your own before they become bigger problems.

Keep your partner informed about your life – You may live separately, but sharing information about your activities and friends is still important.

Trust each other – Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty, the relationship is in for danger, just as it would be in any other relationships. Suspicion over your partner would only break the relationship down.

Keep the relationship a high priority – Avoid canceling reunions or putting off phone calls.

Set a limit of your time apart – This is a wise thing to do if you do not want to end up waiting forever. There will come a time when you and your partner will have to start planning a serious future, which can only happen when you are living in the same area.

Signs of Cheating

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. So even if you might be in love with whom you thought as your better half, there's always a chance that he or she may be cheating on you. Contrary to what you may think, you might not be the center of your partner's universe after all.

If you sense that your partner is cheating, you'll have to start paying attention, as she'll likely cover his or her tracks better than a practiced thief. Here are several signs that your boyfriend or girlfriend might be spreading the love around too much and, while they may not at all imply that he or she is in fact cheating on you, serve as a warning that something is amiss with your relationship.

Loss of sex drive – Unless your partner has been in intense stress from work, then a sudden loss of interest in sex may indicate that your loved one is getting it elsewhere.

Defensiveness – A cheating partner usually feels bad deep inside him or her and this guilt can come out through being defensive or placing the blame on you. Examples of defensiveness include when your partner refuses to answer even the simplest and fairest questions, only answering them only after repeating them back to you, or when your partner would question your queries about his sudden change of schedule. You should also look for signs of aggressiveness from your partner.

Too much excuses – This may sound too obvious, but comments about needing to work late, having to take a business trip, or needing to unexpectedly meet with a client, can all be signs of cheating.

Telephone hang-ups – There would be times that your partner's new liaison is bold enough to call your home number. If you answer the phone, the caller would hang up, but not if your partner answers the cal. Watch out for frequent hang-ups.

Showering you with unexplained gifts – Besides defensiveness, your cheating partner may try to throw you off track by being extra nice. Flowers, chocolate, and other gifts that are given on ordinary days could be a sign of cheating.

Your partner detaches from your family – The fact that he or she no longer wants to attend family functions or hang out with your friends may be indicative of “cheater's remorse.” He or she may feel guilty enough about cheating as it is, and having to face your friends and relatives may be just another painful reminder of those sins. The less time your partner immerses in your circles, the less mental anguish he or she will have to endure.

Your partner begins to point out your every flaw – Gone are the days when the two of you could communicate with such harmonious precision. Lately, every sentiment you express would set your partner off, as he or she finds any excuse to last out at you.

A mysterious friend inches his or her way into the picture – Whether it's someone she claims is a co-worker, or an old friend from “way back,” your partner keeps this friendship under wraps and is hesitant in sharing any general details about them, much less introduce you.

You feel a shift in your partner's daily priorities – Suddenly, there are no more implied Sunday dates at the movies, or something always comes up on your dance class. There is a tendency for most philanderers to schedule meetings with their new flame as often a they can, resulting in a complete disregard for previous engagements.

Your partner's sudden change of style – Remember that just as you tried to impress each other in the beginning of your relationship, so too will your partner have a sudden urge to improve his or her fashion style, or alter physical appearance for the other person.

Your partner slowly breaks away – A big sign that something has gone awry comes when he or she becomes more autonomous. Your partner doesn't say “we” anymore, but rather “I.” Moreover, he or she does more things on their own, and stops consulting you about future plans.

The Difference Between Men and Women in a Relationship

Just like when they say “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus,” the opposite sex are literally polar opposites when it comes to relationships, especially in thought process, sensitivity, memory, and communication.

A successful relationship is one that recognizes that difference and is able to get beyond the he said/ she said scenarios. Here are some notable variations.

Difference in solving problems – Both sexes are capable of solving problems equally well. However, the thought process involved in coming to a resolution varies between men and women. For men, a problem is an opportunity for them to demonstrate their problem-solving skills in a quick and efficient manner. Men see having the problem solved as the ultimate goal and they believe that the best solution is the one that is the quickest as well as the most efficient. Meanwhile, women see a problem as an opportunity to work together and reach a resolution. Women relish the chance to communicate about the problem and the act of working together to solve the problem is more important than actually solving the problem.

Difference in sensitivity – Women have a heightened sense of sensitivity relative to men, resulting to women being more prone to act on their emotions rather than on rational thought. A woman's sensitivity allows her to understand her own feelings as well as those of others better so her reactions tend to take feelings into consideration above logic. However, men do not have the same level of sensitivity and therefore are more likely to make their decisions based on logic. This disparity can result in problems during a relationship because women assume that men intentionally tried to hurt their feelings while men may grow frustrated if he believes women made an irrational decision.

Difference in memory – Men have a memory that is stronger in situations where they can recall the details of an event by making an association with something concrete like a location or item. For instance, men are more apt to remember an event that took place in a location that they are able to visualize well. Women, on the other hand, have a memory that is stronger when they are able to associate the emotions felt with that memory to other memories where they have similar emotions. This type of memory is especially problematic because when women become angry with their partner, they are often able to recall other situations where men have angered her. Unless the difference in memory is recognized, it can become a source of frustration in a relationship.

Difference in communication style – Men tend to be more introspective about their problems and choose to deal with them internally and without discussing them with their partner. When they do decide to discuss a problem, it's usually after much thought and careful consideration. Meanwhile, women enjoy conversing about their problems with their partner and believe that doing do helps them to understand their problem better and come to a solution more easily. Women often use communication as a method for reaching a conclusion, and view the discussion as a way to figure out a solution.

Meeting your Online Date

The Internet has changed how people meet, and that includes meeting someone for potential long-term relationships. However, meeting your online date face-to-face is like going through a blind date, even if you have exchanged e-mails and called numerous times. Read on so you would know how to improve the chances to successfully turn a virtual date into a real date.
Be at your best, but still yourself – Just like how honest you are when you describe yourself in the online dating profile, you should also relax your style and be yourself. However, you should not forget to look your best. Men should get a haircut and a clean shave (if needed), while women should have their hair done, nails manicured, and nicely made-up. After all, your first meeting with your online date creates a new set of first impressions. Choose comfortable clothes that suits your style.

Choose a public place – Make sure that your first meetings should always be on a public place such as a park, coffee shop, or at a quiet bar. Public places somehow make you feel secured.

Keep your date short – Your first date with your online fling should not necessarily begin with a dinner or a movie. A brief lunch break or a short coffee stop (up to an hour) is long enough to know more about your online date in the “real world” setting, as well as judge for yourself on each other's chemistry.

Mind your language – Not only you are judged according on how you look and what you say, but also on how you say it. Be aware of your use of words, as well as your non-verbal communication such as posture and manners.

Anticipate for the unexpected – Even if you have exchanged e-mails or talked over the phone several times, chances are you might end up disappointed towards your online date once you meet him or her in the flesh. You might realize that you do not have the chemistry or connection that you are seeking towards your date. In case this happens, tell your date that you won't stay long. Make up an excuse if you have to. However, be honest to your date that you do not feel that connection (but be cordial and friendly about it).

Maintain good eye contact – Keep your eyes set towards your date. Glancing about the room gives the impression that you are not really interested.

Ask and listen – Take your time to understand what your date is saying before asking an appropriate follow-up question. The most interesting people are those who are interested in you.

Call the person by their name – Leave each other's chat nicknames on the Net. In real life, you are supposed to call your date by his or her name. It shows some respect to your date.

Be enthusiastic – Stay positive throughout the date and have a sense of humor. Don't take things too seriously. Remember that this date is supposed to be relaxed, taking your date to a friendship level before considering other possibilities.

Follow-through after the date – Whether or not the date is a success, you need to send a thank you e-mail to your date. If you're certain that the person has zero chance of going out with you in the future, just say thanks and tell that you are not interested with him or her. If the date went well, say thanks and that you are looking forward for another date.

Online Dating Precautions

Meeting with someone through the Net can be exciting, yet at the same time dangerous. Although you get to meet different people from different places, the Internet is not enough to create trust towards another person. Before you venture into this activity, please be cautious and read our tips.
Don't give out personal information – This includes your last name, home or work address, phone numbers, bank account data, and other sensitive details. Sometimes, scammers who steal other people's bank savings may disguise themselves into singles looking for love through the Internet.

Don't afraid to ask – On the Internet, people can pretend to be someone else. It's not easy to determine if someone is being honest since you have no visual, vocal, or body language to analyze, even if you have webcams and voice chats. It is okay to ask the other person for proof of important matters like job status, educational degrees, and others.

Do not use your phone to call – Heaing your date's voice erases a level of anonymity. However, it is best not to use your own phone when calling. Use a payphone instead to avoid problems with caller ID. If you and your date have a voice chat program in your computer (such as Skype or Yahoo! Messenger with Voice), you can talk to your date for free.

Listen and analyze your date's voice – It is best to talk with the person either through online or phone several times before meeting face-to-face. You can learn a lot about someone's personality by hearing his or her voice and how they talk. Be cautious if you feel that the other person is trying to manipulate you or making up answers just to please you. Also, watch out for signs of anger and frustration while getting to know them over the Net.

Never meet the person alone – It is best to meet the other person on a public place. Never go overseas just to meet this other person (unless you deeply trust him or her). You can bring along a friend, or tell a friend about your date beforehand.

Why Men Should Date Online

Have you never tried online dating sites? Online dating sites offers many advantages over other dating alternatives. Here is a list of just some of those benefits.

Inexpensive Cost - A membership on a good online dating site is affordable and give you the opportunity to maximize your time.

Learn about the person quickly - At a bar you can meet someone talk to her few hours and never find out about important information’s about her. Amazingly online lots of them reveal it right away.

Your get more options - In the real world you are limited to the girls that are around you. Online, the girls just need to have signed up for the site that you are on and you can join multiple sites as well.

Chance she see your strengths - At a bar a girl see you differently. First, they will be open to talk with you if you are attractive for them. Online it is different. The girl gets to look you over and if you have created yourself a quality profile, build you up based on all your strengths and then get to know the real you.

Time to select - At a bar if you see two girls that you like you have at least 5 seconds to select which one you want to talk to first. Online the girls going anywhere and if two girls email you at once you can answer both at your own pace.

Flirting with a Man

First, let's make an agreement: men are forever different from women. For instance, men are more visual than women and they respond more effectively and quickly to visual stimuli.
Let's apply that to romance. Men are attracted to the physical aspects of women, but you don't have to be super-pretty just to catch their attention. Just follow our suggestions and you will be fine.

Smile – Men tend to notice a woman's smile before their eyes move around elsewhere. You have to remember that men have their insecurities and they usually approach women whom they feel would “welcome” them. Smiling is like saying, “Hi! Let's have some coffee!” or “Would you like coffee or me?”

Make eye contact – The eyes are said to be windows to the soul, and you want to make sure he know you're trying to get inside his soul.

Check his body language – Body signals are good indicators of how he feels about you more than anything he may say verbally. The eyes are the biggest giveaway when it comes to seduction of either sex. If he returns your gaze, and especially if he holds eye contact with you longer than you would normally expect, then chances are he's quite interested.

Flirt using your body – Answer back his interest by making some body language of your own. You don't have to overly-suggestive. It is best to portray that you are not so easy. A little combing the hair along the ears or a faint smile will do.

Ask about what surrounds him, not about him – Men tend to talk more about other things but himself. You should ask about recent events, or talk about his immediate surroundings, or even about the weather. The conversation would get some momentum (as long as you listen and answer to him) until the guy would feel comfortable into talking about himself.

Show your sincerity – Remember that you are not trying to impress him with how clever you are, you are trying to communicate a sincere interest in him.

Let the guys talk more – Men are not talkative by nature. If he talks more, then probably he is interested to you. Try to keep the focus on him. You should guide the conversation by asking questions. Offer bits of information about yourself, as they relate to what you are saying, but don't dwell on yourself.

Danger Signs on a Date

No matter how many times you have previously dated, taking another person on a date always has endless possibilities and unknown results. You could be moving too fast, it would probably be too late for you to realize that you have hit a wall. In dating, remember to proceed with caution and determine whether or not to continue on a romantic relationship. Here are some possible problems that you should steer clear from or be cautious about.

Moving too fast – Always be sure to watch the speed of the relationship. Take time to really know your date by asking questions on your first few dates. Ask her about her hometown, her family, or her work. You can learn a lot about a person by what he says and the way he answers. If your date is hesitant to answer, be cautious.

Meeting online – When arranging to meet someone you met over the Internet, make it a safe time of day and choose a public place such as a restaurant, a coffee shop, or even a large department store. You could even tow along a friend for a double date, and your date should respect your right to feel comfortable. Remember that when dating online, never provide your personal information like your home address, occupation, travel frequency, and your home phone number. Consider asking him to exchange snail mails instead so you can both verify each other's information. If he refuses or sends mail with no return address or a fake address, then ditch the guy.

Getting vague answers – If your date frequently gives you unclear answers like “I've got work to do,” or “I'm really busy this weekend,” especially when asking for another date or if you want him to meet your parents, then be wary. Be alarmed whenever the man takes phone calls out of your earshot or gives you only his cell phone number (instead of his home phone number). Keep in mind that open communication is very much needed for a relationship to go anywhere. If you don't have it up front, you won't have it as the relationship deepens.

Rebound from another relationship – If you're mending from a previous relationship, it is best to take time for yourself. Don't be so quick to fill that void.. If you are dating to prevent the loneliness of a breakup, then it's too soon. Finding the right person does not happen quickly, as you need to get to know someone. Try hanging out with your friends or embark on a vacation all by yourself in the meantime.

Feeling desperate – If you feel pressured, you would make a desperate decision. You may choose the wrong man or stay in a relationship that is not going anywhere. Also, avoid substance abusers and men who are verbally or physically abusive. Besides, there are millions of other men out there. Just cut your losses and move on.

10 Nice Things You Can Do For Him

There are amazing nice things that you can do for the man in your life to let him know how much he means to you. This is all about concerning for his personality and hobbies to demonstrate that you care about him. Surprise your man with these thoughtful and tailored gestures.

Have his car professionally detailed – Many men take pride in their car and enjoy spreading their time to make sure it looks and runs its best. You can let him know that you understand his fascination with his car by making the arrangements to have the car detailed. If he will be out of town for a few days, try making the arrangements so that it will be a surprise for him when he returns. If you are unable to do this in secret, go ahead and let him know about your plans.

Complete a chore that he does in the house – If he usually takes care of mowing the lawn, plan to come home from work early one day to mow the lawn before he gets home. He will not only be excited to not having to take care of this chore but will also be excited that you recognize the effort he puts forth into completing this chore.

Purchasing a gadget – Many men enjoy all types of gadgets and figuring out one that he is interested in and purchasing it for him will be a very welcomed gift. It will also show him that you were paying attention while he was talking about this gadget and you understand how much it means to him.

Meeting him at work – Surprising the man in your life is another nice thing you can do for him. Take him out to lunch and spend some extra time with each other. The element of surprise will let him know that you are thinking of him. Also, having a break in his day where he can relax and enjoy your company will make the rest of the day seem to go by much more quickly for him.

Take control of plans for a date – Men are usually the ones who are in charge of planning and paying for dates so he will be grateful for you making date arrangements for a night. Carefully plan out a fun date filled with activities that he will enjoy and don't rely on him to take care of any details, even in paying for the date. The man in your life will feel pampered for the evening and will enjoy having the stress of date planning off his shoulders.

Pick up a magazine or book of his interest – Doing so would let him know that you understand his interest and that you want him to have some time to enjoy thinking about his favorite hobby.

Learn about his favorite sport – He may enjoy spending his weekends watching his favorite sports teams and, if you are not normally a fan of this sport, you will surprise him by taking an active interest. Try doing some research on your own to learn a little more about his favorite sport and team and the next time he is watching a game, sit with him and ask pertinent questions. He would be astonished at you knowledge and eager to teach you more.

Buy him flowers – Women receive flowers for special occasions and sometimes for no reason at all. However, men don't often receive flowers so showing up with a bouquet for him will be a welcomed surprise. He would appreciate the novelty of the gift and be delighted with the gesture.

Purchase tickets to see his favorite band in concert – While his type of music may not be your first choice, it's something he enjoys so give him a chance to indulge himself. He would be excited to share his music with you and will be glad that you are interested in hearing the music with him.

Learn to barbecue – Many men enjoy barbecued foods, and they would also appreciate the opportunity to indulge in them without having to do any of the work. Preparing a barbecue would let him know that you realize it's a meal he enjoys and that you appreciate the effort he usually puts forward to prepare his meal.

How to Go Forth with Caution

You have found your ideal guy, but that doesn't you should just go all out to be with him. It is best to go forth with caution. Dating is like an unknown road every time you travel on it. No matter how many times you have dated, it always leads to different possibilities and different paths. Consider these following tips if you feel like your guy is “the one.”

Trust your gut – Does internal dialogue like “Why didn't I see it coming,” or “I should have known better” sound familiar? It simply means that you tend to internalize things and see failures as your own faults. You need to quiet such harsh criticisms from yourself and learn to listen to your inner self. Women often have a strong intuitive sense. If you think something is wrong, it probably is. Hone this instinct and you would save yourself some heartbreak.

Tag a friend along on your date – It is smart to bring a healthy dose of skepticism with you on a date. It also helps to bring a trusted girlfriend along too. You may fall head over heals and miss obvious warning signs. Suggest to your guy for a double date to see if you friend picks up on subtle clues that he may not be the one, like a tone in his voice that shows insincerity, which you may overlook.

Take the road less traveled – Many women approach finding a man through a list of qualifications. However, you will realize that love has nothing to do with his job, hair color, or social status. Consider dating guys that are a little outside your type. If you usually date tall men, go out with a shorter guy. Say yes to offers that you would normally turn down because it doesn't interest you. Mix it up and you may be surprised at what you find.

What Makes Men Turn-Off

In contrast to knowing what men want, you should also be aware of what qualities that makes men turn-off towards women. Avoid the following circumstances:
Getting drunk – The society may accept men getting drunk, but not women. Looking at it, drunk women are not sexy.

Discussing your health problems – Most men have no idea how your body works, and telling them about your menstrual cramps may make them feel uncomfortable.

Making negative comments about men in general – Quotes like “All men are pigs” or “The only good men in the world are either married or gay” would surely have men's ears blaring.

A “business-like” attitude – We agree that women can achieve more than men, even in the field of business. However, this professional yet snobbish attitude should not be imposed when you are dating around with men. Remember that men have insecurities, and an overpowering female would not help at all.

Talking about your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend – Past is past. Your relationship is all about “now,” not “then.” Avoid comparing your present relationship with your previous ones either.

Talking extensively about yourself – Women talk more than men and it's usually about themselves. You can talk endlessly with your girl friends, but not with men. When talking, make sure that you still show your interest in him.

Asking too many questions – Remember that this is a date, not a job interview. Start with a question, he answers with his opinion, then answer with your opinion. One-sided conversations may lead a man to boredom.

Dressing inappropriately – You can dress sexily, but there is a huge difference between sexy and sleazy. For instance, you can wear short skirts, but do not pair it with knee-high boots. Dressing up like a sidewalk prostitute would not make men take you seriously.

Applying too much make-up – Most men would rather see your “natural beauty” than your “clowned-up beauty.”

Being materialistic – Talking to men about shopping or your favorite shoes may give a wrong impression that you are selfish when it comes to relationships.

Tips For Teen For Creative Dating

Make a picnic - Pack a basket of your favorite foods, pick a great spot and have a picnic.

Go see a movie - Inviting someone to a movie is always interesting. One good way to make it a little interesting is to let your date choose the film, or put a bunch of movie names in a hat and pick one at random when you get together.

Plan a sporty activity - Take advantage of the time of year and enjoy a seasonal activity together. For example, rollerblade on a summer afternoon or ice skating on a winter night can make for a great date!

Drive to the beach - Take a drive down to the beach for the day. No matter what the time of year, a walk in the sand is always a refreshing change.

Be volunteer in a community service – If it is a project that you are both interested you could do together. Lending a helping hand to a good cause is always a satisfying way to spend an afternoon or evening.

Head to the city for a day - From seeing a matinee to shopping or viewing a great art exhibit, you should select what you are interested.

Make a great plan – You could get tickets to a game and cheer for your favorite team or go to an amusement park for the day.

French Kissing for Beginners

Kissing is not a science, but there sure is a way of doing it. If you and your partner are beginning to explore each other’s sexuality for the first time, the first kisses may look awkward. But with these simple tips, you can give your partner mind-blowing French kisses in no time.

Start with a few pecks – Begin your kissing session with soft kisses on the cheek, neck, lips, even on the eyelids, where there are sensitive spots. Slowly build it up until both of you are ready for a more intimate, open-mouth kiss.

Use the tongue – In a French kiss, both people use their tongues. How you use your tongue is entirely up to you, but it requires a certain amount of skill. Don’t just stick your tongue and do nothing. Use your tongue to gently explore your partner’s mouth and play with his tongue as well. If you think you have a long tongue, why not try using it to tickle your partner’s palette (the roof of his or her mouth)?

Take short breaks – Let go of your kiss (but not too far from your partner’s face) for a few seconds to come up for air and swallow your own saliva.

Avoid clanking each other’s teeth – Teeth clanking happens most often when both of you fail to tilt your heads slightly to one side, or when your mouth are a little too open. If this happens, just laugh it off and start all over. In time, you will figure out how to avoid hitting your partner’s teeth.

Do not bite the tongue – Not only does it hurt, it would probably end your kissing session. If you feel like nibbling, you should do it at your partner’s lower lip, but not too hard. Conversely, if your partner bites your tongue and it hurts, tell him or her that it does not feel good.

Just enjoy your kiss – Kissing should be enjoyable for both people involved. Ask your partner gently what he or she likes in the way you kiss, and tell your partner what you want from him or her as well. Remember, the more you kiss, the better you get at it.

Successful Date: How to

To date successfully you need to increase your confidence levels. Some things you can change quickly, others you will need to practice. Follow these tips to increase your confidence levels:

Make a list – List all the things you are not comfortable with about yourself.

Be honest - Think about which things you think people may not like about you. Ask to your best friend.

Evaluate yourself - Evaluate the way you look and the way you dress. Change the most basic aspects of your looks, lifestyle and regime you will instantly feel more confident.

Feel comfortable - Ensure you are comfortable with any changes you make. Your confidence will grow as you feel better about yourself.

Take care of yourself - Make sure you are in shape or attempting to be. If you are dieting or exercising remember to be patient as these changes, though dramatic, will take a little while.

Do what you always want to do - Start doing the things you wish you had always had the courage to do. Maybe a hobby or sport.

Stay positive - Learn to enjoy the little things in life and give yourself time for these things. Don't wait for others to do something. Walk away from anything you don't like and keep a positive attitude. Do not allow negative family comments to influence you in any way.

Stay your priority – Put yourself first as priority number one. By feeling good about yourself your life has already changed for the better and your confidence levels are on the up.

Select your friends - Be selective about what kind of person you really like and want to keep around you. Keep positive and honest people tan make you feel good about yourself.

Start dating - If someone has asked you out, accept. Be proactive and ask someone out yourself who you like. Remember, you have to try and don’t be worried the person say no. Many will also say yes.

Be sociable - Become sociable and look every opportunity. Make conversation with the nice people you meet along the way.

Select the right person - Remember that your confidence levels will become sky high by people saying yes to you. This will happen when you select the right kind of person for you.

Safe Dating Tips for Teens

First date together – You should go out with another couple or go in a group.

Don't be isolated - Stay in places where other people are near enough to hear you and to be of help. Parking in a remote spot isn't a good idea at any age.

Know your limits - Before you go on a date, think through your own limits regarding sexual contact. It's easier to stick to principles you've determined when you're calm and alone.

Express your wishes - Be wary when your relationship seems to be evolving with one person taking control or acting aggressively- this same pattern could occur in a sexual situation.

Be clear - Be very clear in communicating what you feel, beyond just saying "No." It's important to be up front and tell the person you are dating your expectations, such as discussing abstaining from sexual intercourse before you find yourself in a sexual situation. If a person you are dating wants to go further sexually than you are willing, insist that the date and/or the relationship is over. If he/she won't leave, leave your date.

Warning signs - Being manipulated, verbally put down, pushed or slapped and kept isolated from other relationships are all signs of an abusive relationship.

What Men Want

Women have wondered what do men want in a woman? Was is really all about blond hair and big breasts? Well, not all the time. However, focusing too much on the physical will only get you accepted on the surface level. A little more inch on your waist, and your man may search for a new girl.
In order to get a quality man, you have to be a quality woman. Here are some qualities of what most men want for their woman.

Honest and trustworthy – Men want a woman who is not likely to sneak around and sleep with other guys.

Similar interests – It is best that a woman has similar interests as his. For instance, a man is into skydiving and he wants his woman to have the same passion for adventure. Even if the woman hasn't been skydiving, the man can teach her how to, which the woman would gladly learn.

Presentable appearance – As we said, it's not all about the blond hair and big breasts. What's important is you have good appearance and health. For example, you have clear, bright eyes; a proportionate body (even plus-sized women should retain that “hour-glass” figure); shiny hair; clean nails and body.

An air of mystery – Men like classy women more because they are intriguing, mysterious, and alluring. It also creates an impression that you are hard to get, that men should really pursue you in order to win your affection. For starters, you could dress up appropriately and in style. Remember that there is a huge difference between sexy and sleazy. Unfortunately, many women don't know the difference (and, sadly, men do).

Sense of humor – At the end of the day, humor will keep the relationship running. Having a nice laugh and be able to react positively towards jokes can surely tame a man's heart.

Intelligence and personality – Women should have a right mix of the two. Men like intelligent women with a positive attitude. Strong but not high maintenance. Most men prefer relaxed, yet confident women.

Money-wise – Men respect a woman who is able to manage money. She doesn't impulsively swipe her man's credit card wherever she pleases. She knows where to spend and where to save. Wise money management makes a woman good budget-spenders once she becomes a wife.

Faithful – A good man deserves a good woman. Keep yourself faithful with your man, and your relationship can go places.

Comfortable with her own sexuality – A woman should be aware that she is her man's desire. She could appear as meek as a lamb, but becomes a wild horse when she's in an intimate moment with her man.

Teen Ready for a Date

As a young person, dating has unique challenges. Here are some good teenage dating tips to get you started.

Practice your dating skills - You are practicing to find the right guy or the right girl. Accept that your first date wills not necessary work. If you mess up stand back and ask yourself why it went wrong. Just try to interacting successfully with the opposite sex.

Date someone make you fell good about yourself - If you do not feel good when you with someone else there is no point in being with them. You need to feel appreciated and wanted as a person and make your partner feel the same. Flattery will get you everywhere, tell your date that you appreciate the fact they have made themselves look good to go out with you.

Don’t move too fast – As your parents have told you becoming physically intimate in any way will inevitably lead to complications. If and when the relationship ends, the hurt feelings and betrayal will feel much deeper and you may regret what you’ve done. It can also be awkward to find things to say after an intimate encounter, unless you’re already very close emotionally, which takes time.

Dressing for your date - Girls, you should be attractive and comfortable. Over-dressing or uncovering too much will give the wrong impression. You want the young man taking you out to treat you with respect, not be immediately thinking about your breasts. Remember, the most attractive asset you have is your personality, not your body.

During the date - Be prepared to listening. Everything you need to know is being told to you both verbally and non-verbally so by listening and watching for body signals you will know how things are going.

Keep all your ability - Maybe you're shy and think alcohol will make you cool. Or think a good time with your date means drinking. Avoid to drink too much alcohol because alcohol robs you of your ability to be interesting and to make smart decisions.

After the date - After your date, don’t use overkill to make sure he/she is interested. If you start calling every day or several times a day you will sound like you’re desperate and not attractive or intriguing.

He/She Likes Me?

How to Know If A Guy Really Likes Me?

Do you know if he likes you? The following actions are considered to be real message indicators.

He blushes and sweats because you intimidate him.
He stares at you.

He does things to deliberately gain your attention.
He stutters when he speaks to you.

His pupils dilate when you are up close and you see them..
He waits for you. He looks out for you.

He laughs at your jokes and like listen to you.
He teases you because he wants you to remember and notice him.

He listens to you and actually remembers little details.
He notices slight changes in your appearance.

He seems sad when you ignore him.
He seems jealous when you are with another guy.

His friends all know you when you don't know them.
He smiles back when you smile at him.

He often stares at you and when you catch him, he does that cute head turn, very fast.
He performs sweet acts for you. He defends and protects you. He tolerates you being mean to him.

How to Know If A Girl Really Likes Me?

How can you tell if a girl likes you or not? There are few little signs that girls often give off that can help you to judge how well you're doing. The following are the most obvious and telling.

She'll engage in elevated levels of direct eye contact when talking with you. She'll look more directly into your eyes and hold it a little longer than normal.
She laughs at anything you say.
Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way...

She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.

She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

She puts her fingernail between her teeth.

She laughs with you.

She touches your arm, shoulder, or hand while talking to you.

Plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

When Do Teens Start Dating

When are teens ready to date? At some point in adolescence most teens begin to date. This is an important and personal decision. In the eye of a teenager, dating is a field full of flowering opportunities.

Best age to begin dating - There is no best age for teens to begin dating. Every person will be ready for a dating relationship at a different time. Different families may have certain rules about dating, too.

Before to start a relationship - You should first, get to know a person by talking on the phone or at school before you go out for the first time. Relationships should start with good communication, honesty, and respect.

When you decide to start a relationship - it should be because you care about someone and not because you feel like you have to start dating. A dating relationship is a special chance to get to know someone, and share your thoughts and feelings with each other.

Have a healthy relationship - Healthy relationships are about feeling good about who you are and feeling safe with another person. The most important part of any healthy relationship between two people is being able to talk and listen to one another. You can share your feelings with the other person and trust that they will be there to listen and support you.

Don’t feel uncomfortable - You should never feel pressured to do something that you don't want to do. The other person should always respect your right to say no to anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. It is important that you are honest with each other about what you will and will not do.

Flirting with a Women

Men will always view the woman as a mystery; a code that needs to be cracked. That is why flirting with a woman can be a little tricky, as they tend to have moods that we may never understand.

The art of flirting and seduction, as with any other skill, does not always come naturally and can be developed. With some effort, in time you would become a magnet for other people.

Smile – This is probably the easiest form of flirting. It brings out your positivity and you are indicating that you are interested to the person you are talking with. But unlike a “regular” smile, a “flirty” smile should be wider than you are used to. Smile often, such as when shaking her hand, introducing yourself, complementing her, among other things. Remember that a smile breaks the ice, and can lead to a conversation. Practice your smile in the mirror and check how to smile without looking too scary.

Get caught looking at her – It may seem to be something shy guys tend to do, but looking away can be flirty. If you want to know to let her know you are interested, just look at her face. When she catches you looking, smile, hold eye contact for a moment, then look away.

Wave a little – Another way of flirting if you get caught looking at a hot girl is to give a little wave. Move your hand a little and smile. It's saying “hello” in a non-intrusive yet very flirty manner.

Wink – Giving a quick and sweet wink can be done with someone from across the room, or at someone during a conversation. However, it is best not to wink excessively. If she says or does something she might view as embarrassing, you can give out a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you.

Be creative in introducing yourself – It is important to seduce her mind first. Using the right words would get in her head and have her thinking about you. Also, make her feel comfortable as you talk to her. Women like to talk so establishing a rapport with her is not as hard as it might seem. Just remember to think of the right words before saying it and be sincere in your conversations.

Eye contact – Looking (not staring) at her longer than normal would provide the right message that you are interested to her. Remember to keep your look on her face, glancing on other body parts for a few minutes every once in a while.

Complement her – Open conversations with her by complementing. However, be careful on what you're complementing. On your first meeting, it is best to focus your praises on her face and not on her body (even if she looks hot).

Check her body language – Most men fail to realize the importance of body language. Women tend to make certain body movements—and they are usually unaware of this—indicating whether or not they like the man whom they are talking to. For instance, combing her hair around the ear using her fingertips is a good sign that she likes you. Other notable movements include eye contact, trying to heighten or lower her voice just to match yours, and if she is leaning closer. However, do not consider one movement as the overall impression. If she crosses her arms, it could either mean she is being defensive at meeting new people or being uncomfortable towards you.

Humor her – Having a good laugh provides a healthy conversation between you and her. She creates a positive impression of you, which is vital if you want to establish a relationship with her. However, remember that sense of humor can be relative. What can be funny to you can be horrible for her. Try to tell her a joke that got you laughing and see if she reacts positively.

Keep the positive – Maintain the positive topics that you use in the conversation. Remember that talking to her should be fun and leave the intelligent exchange to the philosophers. Avoid topics that usually lead to dispute such as religion, politics, past relationships, rants, and other negative discussions.

Talk a little more, but not about yourself – One objective to flirting a woman is to know more about her. However, keep yourself a mystery as much as possible. Not talking too much about yourself would make women longing to know about you more.

Touch lightly – You can touch your prospect without harassing the girl. This can be as simple as placing your hand lightly on her hand for a moment, or touching her back for a moment as you walk to a table to sit down. Touching is actually a good indicator to know if the girl is interested to you: if she pulls away, then she could either be not interested or just not wanting to go on a deeper level yet.

Make decisions quickly – Taking your time choosing the perfect coffee blend or looking at the restaurant menu does not give a good signal to the woman. By making decisions quickly and firmly, you are proving to her that you know what you want.

Be patient – Take things slowly. If she doesn't want to be touched on your first date, then don't force it. If she is the aggressive type, try resisting her. Either way, she would be intrigued more about you.

Do the “goodbye compliment” – If you are really shy to approach a girl, you could simply go near her before you leave and say something like, “Hi, I have to go now, but before I did, I really wanted to let you know that you have a really great smile, and I noticed that. I wish I had more time to spend with you, but I have to go.” After doing your “goodbye compliment,” leave as soon as possible even if the girl wants you to stay some more. This allows you to build your confidence in approaching women without having to take the risk of rejection. If the girl seems interested to you, ask for her phone number.

Know when to stop – Remember to stop flirting while it is still fun. Flirting too often during a conversation may make you appear as cheesy. If you stop flirting on a high point, your new friend may feel good when thinking of you, and want to see you again.

10 Nice Things You Can Do For Her

Demonstrate your love for the special woman in your life in a number of small deeds. For starters, flowers and candy on special occasions are always nice, but you can also surprise a woman by offering smaller gestures on a daily basis. She would appreciate your thoughtfulness and understand that you are trying to how her how much she means to you. Here are some good examples.

Ask her how her day was – Women enjoy talking about their personal issues and expressing an interest in her career or other areas will be greatly appreciated. Listening carefully to her would let her know that you are fascinated in her thoughts and care about her feelings.

Cook for her – Most women are the primary cooks in the relationship and giving her a night off from her usual kitchen duties is always a welcomed gesture. Don't worry if you don't know how to cook, it's really not that hard. There are many cook books and Internet sites that offer a wide variety of recipes.

Remember and celebrate a small occasion – It's nice to celebrate on big occasions but if you remember the anniversary of another special day, the woman in your life would be completely caught by surprise. For instance, celebrate the anniversary of the day you brought home your new puppy with a trip to a dog park.

Give her compliments – Women tend to expect compliments when they put a lot of effort into their appearance, but letting her know that you think she is beautiful while she's running errands demonstrates that you see her inner beauty shining through all times. Compliments don't always have to be about physical characteristics. You could compliment her on her career accomplishments, for example.

Handing over the remote control – You may not want to sit through another episode of a home decorating show, but allowing the woman in your life to indulge in this without complaining about her choice would show her that you are not belittling her interests.

Get to know her family and friends – Your woman values their relationships and she would be pleased about the fact that you are taking interest and getting to know the other special people in her life.

Write her a love letter – Send your love letter through mail. Sure she sees you almost every day and may even exchange e-mails and phone call on a daily basis, but a love letter is something that she can save in a special place and would be cherished.. Expresing your love in a letter is a special way to tell a woman that you care deeply about her.

Plan a trip – A vacation is alwas nice, but when you take the initiative and plan out all the details ahead of time, it shows that you want her to have the enjoyable experience of the trip. And at the same time, you are willing to take care of all the planning.

Surprise her at work – Show up for a lunch date. Your woman would love to be surprised and your lunch date would give her the opportunity to get out of the office for a little while and enjoy some time with you. Many woman skip lunch of work straight through it, but giving her the opportunity to break away from her desk for even a half hour would give her a welcomed chance to relax a little bit.

Open the car door for her – Women enjoy being independent, but small chivalrous gestures are always appreciated. If you normally rush to the driver's side of the car and hop in, stop once in a while to open her door first. It shows that you want to protect and care for her and would make her feel well-loved.

Building Self Confidence for Men

Women are drawn in more towards men who are more confident than others. In the fierce competitive dating world, confidence is a sign of how successful or powerful a man is, as these two are part of the parameters that women look for in men.

But how does a guys develop self confidence? Is he supposed to be wealthy or have a great job? Is he supposed to be a celebrity or a powerful person? In reality, confidence is all about believing in yourself, believing in your positive qualities and in your potential. Here are some suggestions to make you gain more confidence.

Make your own space – Don't appear desperate by approaching every attractive woman you can find. When you're in a bar, just chill. Create your own “personal space” and just scan for that one single lady whom you find attractive.

Talk slow, deep, and affirmatively – Voice tone is an important indicator of your confidence level. Talking slow shows that you think before you speak, thereby saying things with confidence and affirmation. A deep voice adds the “masculine factor” in your voice, as women are in search for a male partner and not a male shopping buddy, if you know what I mean.

Radiate positive energy – As with every vital dating tip, smiling relieves tension off your body and off the conversation. Other positive body languages such as talking with open palms can make good impressions on your date.

Never panic – If the date doesn't go on as planned, don't panic. Don't feel uneasy, show signs that you are sweating, catch up on your words, and other downturn actions. In cases that your date turned you down, just relax, apologize, and leave your date. After all, she is not the only pretty girl in the bar.

Keep your focus – Remember your goal why you are looking for a date. It could either be you are in search for a relationship or a casual sex partner. In any case, remember not to deviate from your goal.

Do not fear anything – Breathe in deeply and imagine that you can do just about anything. Do not fear of being rejected once you approach a potential date. If you do get rejected, just keep your confidence, scan the bar again for other prospective dates.

Practice these tips daily, even beyond the dating scene, until they have become embedded in your subconscious. In that way, self confidence would become second nature to you.