French Kissing for Beginners

Kissing is not a science, but there sure is a way of doing it. If you and your partner are beginning to explore each other’s sexuality for the first time, the first kisses may look awkward. But with these simple tips, you can give your partner mind-blowing French kisses in no time.

Start with a few pecks – Begin your kissing session with soft kisses on the cheek, neck, lips, even on the eyelids, where there are sensitive spots. Slowly build it up until both of you are ready for a more intimate, open-mouth kiss.

Use the tongue – In a French kiss, both people use their tongues. How you use your tongue is entirely up to you, but it requires a certain amount of skill. Don’t just stick your tongue and do nothing. Use your tongue to gently explore your partner’s mouth and play with his tongue as well. If you think you have a long tongue, why not try using it to tickle your partner’s palette (the roof of his or her mouth)?

Take short breaks – Let go of your kiss (but not too far from your partner’s face) for a few seconds to come up for air and swallow your own saliva.

Avoid clanking each other’s teeth – Teeth clanking happens most often when both of you fail to tilt your heads slightly to one side, or when your mouth are a little too open. If this happens, just laugh it off and start all over. In time, you will figure out how to avoid hitting your partner’s teeth.

Do not bite the tongue – Not only does it hurt, it would probably end your kissing session. If you feel like nibbling, you should do it at your partner’s lower lip, but not too hard. Conversely, if your partner bites your tongue and it hurts, tell him or her that it does not feel good.

Just enjoy your kiss – Kissing should be enjoyable for both people involved. Ask your partner gently what he or she likes in the way you kiss, and tell your partner what you want from him or her as well. Remember, the more you kiss, the better you get at it.

Advanced Kissing Tips

Now you have read the basics of kissing and tried it on your date. It went well. In fact, it was awesome. However, is there a way of taking the kiss to the next level?

Yes, there is. And we are here to enumerate some of the best suggestions.

Don't feel icky about tasting your partner's lip gloss – The reason why some lips stick, lip gloss or chapsticks are flavored is because they are meant for kissing. Don't mind if you swallow some wax as you kiss your partner.

Use your sense of touch – As you kiss, make sure your hands are going around your partner's body. You can start on the neck, then going to the back of the head, going down to the shoulders, and the hips. You get the drift.

Close your eyes as you kiss – Closing your eyes as you kiss mean that you are letting your guard down as you accept your partner's intimacy. You can look at each other for a few seconds, just don't stare too much. That would be creepy.

Kiss other parts of the body – Aside from the lips, you can also kiss your partner through other parts of the body that have a high concentration of nerve endings like the neck, the eyes, the ears, chest, even underarms.

Don't lose your kissing – Kissing is an important aspect of a healthy romantic relationship. Don't settle down to the “companionship level” once you get comfortable towards each other as a couple. You need to maintain that level of intimacy as your relationship progress.

Incorporate kissing to your daily life – Greet your partner good morning with a peck on the cheek. Give her a smooch before she leaves for work. Then get a little intimate come bedtime with a petting on the neck.

Take advantage of your tongue – Don't just stick your tongue out when kissing. Make it explore around your partner's mouth, even going around some sensation spots that would make your partner feel really good.

Giggle as you kiss – Make kissing an enjoyable activity between the two of you. Smile before kissing, and giggle a little in between kisses. Don't overdo it though for your partner might mistaken it for some insult.

Basic Kissing

A simple kiss can actually have different meaning. It could be friendly, romantic, affectionate, or passionate. What's important is that every time you kiss, you have to make sure that it is satisfying on both parties.

But before you pucker up your lips and start learning about the art of kissing, it is best that you learn some basic guidelines as your first base.

Kissing more than just touching lips – Kissing doesn't not only entail the touching of each other's lips. This experience actually involves touch, taste, and even smell. The touching of lips stimulates you and your partner's nerve endings, sending sensations throughout the body, not to mention couple's tendency to caress each other. A great kiss should also be void of bad breath and other distracting taste that you may sense. So before kissing, make sure that you popped a breath mint and offer it to your partner as well.

Practice first – You don't just go into something that you have absolutely no idea about. Before going on a date, it is best to practice how you should kiss to avoid embarrassment on your part. You could start with practicing with an inaminate object, kissing your hand, playing with a lollipop or eating ice cream on a cone. Also, consider watching romantic movies and see how couples kiss.

Expect a kiss, so be prepared beforehand – When you are on a date, or when your partner is about to approach you, expect some lip locking to ensue. Before that happens, make sure that your teeth are brushed, your mouth is clean, and your lips are moisturize. However, don't be too obvious about popping a mint or applying lip gloss as your date goes for a kiss. A little “bite and lick” on the lips would do just fine.

Look before kissing – A passionate kiss begins with an intimate stare into your partner's eyes. Gaze for a few seconds before closing your eyes. Then, lean forward and let your instincts take over.

Remember to pause – Once you have landed a soft kiss on the lips of your date, hold back a little. Relish the sensation it makes in your body, think about how it makes you feel good. Look into the eyes of your date for a few seconds, then close your eyes once again as you lean forward for a longer, more passionate kiss.

Keep your lips slightly parted as you kiss – Kissing with your mouth closed is not cool. It makes your lips stiff and it certainly looks “one-way,” even rude. Also, make sure that your lips are soft, moist, and warm as you kiss.

Keep your body in flow – Doesn't it fell awkward when you and your date bump heads while kissing? When kissing, open up your body by putting your hands on your partner's back, hips or shoulders. Also make sure to keep the distance close, and tilt your head as you go for a more intimate kiss.

A perfect kiss is firm, but tender – To make this trick work, imagine yourself softly eating a mango as you kiss your date. Approach the kiss with a little force from your mouth. Pout your lips as you close them, then open them again as you continue kissing.

Kiss with genuine intimacy – A kiss is something that you cannot fake. You may say that you are attracted to your partner, but the kiss says otherwise.

How to French Kiss

When you're ready to French kiss, lean toward your date with your head tilted slightly to avoid bumping noses. Men may put wrap their arms around a date's waist; women may wrap their arms around a date's neck.

Make eye contact as you lean toward one another but close your eyes as the lips meet. Inadvertent eye-contact mid-kiss can be quite awkward.

As you lean in for the kiss, have your lips parted ever so slightly and inhale through your mouth to heighten the senses and to avoid breathing on your date.

Allow your lips to brush against each others to create light, feathery kisses. Keep the tongue in your mouth initially.

As the kiss warms up, allow your tongue to flicker onto your date's lips. Don't let your tongue linger - keep the flickers quick and gentle.

If your date responds in kind, let your tongue extend back toward his or her tongue. Keep the movement light and gentle - tongue wrestling is a no-no.

Breathe through your nose as your tongues touch playfully and sensually.

Remember, fresh breath is essential. Avoid smelly foods (garlic, brie cheese, corn chips, coffee) beforehand. Freshen up with a mint or gum, making sure to dispose of the gum before kissing.