No matter how many times you have previously dated, taking another person on a date always has endless possibilities and unknown results. You could be moving too fast, it would probably be too late for you to realize that you have hit a wall. In dating, remember to proceed with caution and determine whether or not to continue on a romantic relationship. Here are some possible problems that you should steer clear from or be cautious about.
Moving too fast – Always be sure to watch the speed of the relationship. Take time to really know your date by asking questions on your first few dates. Ask her about her hometown, her family, or her work. You can learn a lot about a person by what he says and the way he answers. If your date is hesitant to answer, be cautious.
Meeting online – When arranging to meet someone you met over the Internet, make it a safe time of day and choose a public place such as a restaurant, a coffee shop, or even a large department store. You could even tow along a friend for a double date, and your date should respect your right to feel comfortable. Remember that when dating online, never provide your personal information like your home address, occupation, travel frequency, and your home phone number. Consider asking him to exchange snail mails instead so you can both verify each other's information. If he refuses or sends mail with no return address or a fake address, then ditch the guy.
Getting vague answers – If your date frequently gives you unclear answers like “I've got work to do,” or “I'm really busy this weekend,” especially when asking for another date or if you want him to meet your parents, then be wary. Be alarmed whenever the man takes phone calls out of your earshot or gives you only his cell phone number (instead of his home phone number). Keep in mind that open communication is very much needed for a relationship to go anywhere. If you don't have it up front, you won't have it as the relationship deepens.
Rebound from another relationship – If you're mending from a previous relationship, it is best to take time for yourself. Don't be so quick to fill that void.. If you are dating to prevent the loneliness of a breakup, then it's too soon. Finding the right person does not happen quickly, as you need to get to know someone. Try hanging out with your friends or embark on a vacation all by yourself in the meantime.
Feeling desperate – If you feel pressured, you would make a desperate decision. You may choose the wrong man or stay in a relationship that is not going anywhere. Also, avoid substance abusers and men who are verbally or physically abusive. Besides, there are millions of other men out there. Just cut your losses and move on.
Moving too fast – Always be sure to watch the speed of the relationship. Take time to really know your date by asking questions on your first few dates. Ask her about her hometown, her family, or her work. You can learn a lot about a person by what he says and the way he answers. If your date is hesitant to answer, be cautious.
Meeting online – When arranging to meet someone you met over the Internet, make it a safe time of day and choose a public place such as a restaurant, a coffee shop, or even a large department store. You could even tow along a friend for a double date, and your date should respect your right to feel comfortable. Remember that when dating online, never provide your personal information like your home address, occupation, travel frequency, and your home phone number. Consider asking him to exchange snail mails instead so you can both verify each other's information. If he refuses or sends mail with no return address or a fake address, then ditch the guy.
Getting vague answers – If your date frequently gives you unclear answers like “I've got work to do,” or “I'm really busy this weekend,” especially when asking for another date or if you want him to meet your parents, then be wary. Be alarmed whenever the man takes phone calls out of your earshot or gives you only his cell phone number (instead of his home phone number). Keep in mind that open communication is very much needed for a relationship to go anywhere. If you don't have it up front, you won't have it as the relationship deepens.
Rebound from another relationship – If you're mending from a previous relationship, it is best to take time for yourself. Don't be so quick to fill that void.. If you are dating to prevent the loneliness of a breakup, then it's too soon. Finding the right person does not happen quickly, as you need to get to know someone. Try hanging out with your friends or embark on a vacation all by yourself in the meantime.
Feeling desperate – If you feel pressured, you would make a desperate decision. You may choose the wrong man or stay in a relationship that is not going anywhere. Also, avoid substance abusers and men who are verbally or physically abusive. Besides, there are millions of other men out there. Just cut your losses and move on.
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